Chapter 155

On Monday morning, Han Mingxiu rode to the county to pick up her clothes. It was only after nine o'clock when she arrived at the county. At this point, aunt Gao and uncle Gao must be sweeping the street. Han Mingxiu was inconvenient to disturb them, so he went to the second sister first.

At this moment, it's working time. The second sister is alone at home. She is very happy to see Han Mingxiu coming. She is suffocating when she is alone at home all day. She can't be happier to have a dear sister to talk to her.

"Xiu, come and have some crabapple. Your second brother-in-law went to the orchard specially to pick them for me. They are crispy."

Han Mingyu points to a basin of green and green crabapple fruit on the tea table for Han Mingxiu to eat.

Han Mingxiu looks at the green Begonia fruit, and his mouth suddenly turns sour.

Although the green fruit is crisp, it's not sweet at all. It's sour and sour. Before she can eat it, she feels sour water coming out of her mouth. She really can't eat it.

However, Han Mingyu felt delicious. He picked up the crabapple and ate it one by one, as if he could not feel how sour the fruit was.

Seeing that the second sister can eat sour food, Han Mingxiu thought to herself that sour children are hot women. The second sister loves sour food so much that nine times out of ten this baby is a boy.

Although Han Mingxiu does not have the idea of son preference, but for the second sister's consideration, she still hopes that this baby can have a son.

In this era, there are few people who don't value their sons more than their daughters. The second sister is soft tempered and lives with her parents in law. If this child can have a son, her parents in law will surely look up to her. For this reason, she especially hopes that the second sister can have a son.

Just, this words she just think in the heart, mouth didn't say, afraid to give two elder sister increase thought burden.

"Second sister, who will wait after the baby?"

Han Mingyu will be born in more than a month. Looking at her big belly, Han Mingxiu can't help thinking about the problem of waiting for her baby.

Han Mingyu said, "it's my mother-in-law who takes care of my child after confinement. However, my husband and mother-in-law have said that when the child is born, I won't be asked to go to work. Anyway, there's no shortage in my family. I earn 10 yuan and 8 yuan, so I'm asked to take care of my child at home and have more children while I'm young."

When Han Mingxiu heard Lin's plan, he frowned and said, "what about you? Is that what you think? "

Han Mingyu nodded and said, "I can do anything. I can go to work or coax my children at home."

Seeing the attitude of the second sister, Han Mingxiu sighed and said, "second sister, I don't want to interfere in your family's decision, but I still want to give you a suggestion. I think we women must be financially independent. Even if you only earn ten or eight yuan a month, the ten or eight yuan is also a symbol of your independence, and it's the foundation for you to sit on an equal footing with your mother-in-law's family. Second sister, don't depend on others economically, and don't stick your chin in other people's food. You should always keep an independent spirit so that you won't be bullied and despised by others. "

In her last life, she saw too many silly women who sacrificed themselves for the sake of their families. They also thought the same as the second sister now. They felt that there were people in the family who made money, and they didn't lack the money she earned, so they simply resigned to take care of their children at home.

The original intention of this idea is good, but the final outcome is not good.

Once a woman has lost her job and takes the family as her own business, she will be detained in the family circle for a long time, and gradually become boring. She will have a distance from her husband in thought and insight. Once the distance is generated, the contradiction of the family will follow.

Moreover, if you don't work for a long time, you can't make money from home. Slowly, a man will have an imbalance in his heart. He will feel that you owe him and that he works hard to earn money to support you.

Therefore, he will have a sense of superiority in front of you that you owe me, and the state of equality and mutual respect between you will gradually break with his imbalance. He will try his best to find a balance in his life until you fall into the dust in front of him.

What's more, after success, some men mercilessly abandon their wives. The reason is that they have a long way to go with their wives. They can't reach an agreement with their wives in terms of knowledge and experience. They are not happy to live with such wives

All kinds of terrible endings, are not the second sister of this fragile mind can bear.

Although the second elder sister husband is kind-hearted and loves her deeply, no matter how much love she has, she can't stand the corrosion of unrestrained consumption and years.

She didn't want her second sister to follow those women's footsteps, and she didn't want her to become a commonplace housewife in the future, so she wanted to make her more excellent, and continue to be excellent, so that no one in her mother-in-law's family could despise her, and she would always have the confidence to sit on an equal footing with them.

The way to make her excellent is to let her not sacrifice herself for the sake of her family, let her go out to work, let her have the opportunity to grow and enrich herself, and do not confine her in the narrow circle of family.

Of course, this is just her wishful thinking. Whether it can be realized or not depends on her second sister.

Han Mingyu took her advice seriously and said helplessly, "Xiu, I understand what you mean. Actually, I don't want monkey to watch children at home. I'm still so young. How can I not want to go to work? But I can't help it. You see, there are only a few people in the family. One must stay at home to look after the children. They are all regular employees. I'm the only one who is a temporary worker. Who will come back if I don't come back? "

Han Mingxiu said, "then can't you find a nanny or send your child to the nursery? Do you have to keep yourself at home? "

Han Mingyu said, "where can I find the nanny who knows the root and the bottom? You don't know. I heard that some nannies are immoral. On the surface, they are very good, but on the back, they always abuse their children when their parents are not at home. The child is too young to tell. How pitiful it is. I thought, if my child is abused without my knowledge, I will die of heartache, so it's absolutely impossible to find a nanny. "

"Nurseries are even more unreliable. If you think about it, can a teacher see a large group of children who can't eat and drink Lasa? What's more, no matter how devoted the teacher is, he can't catch up with his own care? Moreover, children are too young to get sick easily. If one of the children in class one gets sick, they must all be infected. I can't bear to let my children suffer that crime. "

Han Mingyu is very realistic, and Han Mingxiu can't refute that his own life is important, but his children's childhood is also important.

In her last life, she had never heard of nannies abusing children, and kindergarten teachers beating children happened from time to time. The second sister was right to think about this. She only hoped that she would not lose herself in the process of taking care of her children and family.